Welcome to the Emotional Connectivity Podcast from Talent Management Academy.
So, how was your week with Dagmar’s offer to observe people who irritate you and find out what their positive intention might be?
Did you perhaps come up with a few “Ahas” in the process? I would be happy for you.
Today the topic is “I can’t change others”.

Let’s assume that this is really the case, what would you do differently in dealings with others?
I gave a training for project managers, 14 people in the room and the whole day one participant said at every topic: “I already know that… Yes, we already do that!”
On the drive home I got so upset with her and gave her all kinds of names. Cow, was still the nicest animal … hahaha….
After I had a little distance, I thought about myself and how I could deal differently with her.
So, the next morning I went to her and talked to her in a one on one and shared my observation.
Whenever she brought her line, everyone nodded to it and visibly turned off.
She was very experienced and she was not aware of it.
I asked for her help so everyone else could learn and she was happy to share her experience.
From then on, the training went really well. She, I and everyone else had a great week of learning.
What does that mean to you?
You can’t change others, you can only change how you handle them.
Take a look, what are the people you have a hard time with right now and what can you do differently to get a different result with them?
In this sense, make aware, observe and try something new.
Have fun with the new way of dealing!